Love is never an easy topic. For a subject, it is the one where almost all people have their own explanation, beliefs, and ideas. I will try to combine two contradicting points of view in this post.
In the catholic Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love is simple. It will only be difficult when challenged with circumstances such as pain, envy, anger, distrust, and other forms of unwanted feelings.
According to Christina Grimmie’s song, How to Love, suffering can lead to a dilemma on how to be affectionate again to other people.
It is typical for human beings to activate defenses when pained or attacked. With emotions, the idea is the same, we tend to remember previous sufferings and use that as a pattern to automatically ward off possible threats. Loving another person would be difficult if you have suffered so much from your previous relationship. Gaining trust is a difficult task, unless your mind and heart are free.
There are some that can will their minds to make their emotions follow. Most of us, on the other hand, are subdued with our emotions even before the rational mind realizes what is going on.
Love is not for everyone
There are also some who does not believe in love from the beginning or stopped believing in it. Individuals who never felt love from their early age of life tend to neglect the idea of love. They usually avoid people in their lives since trust is not part of their life. It does not mean they are nice people, it is just they just want to center themselves in life.
Some individuals are also numbed with pain that they tend to disregard the mistake. It is not that the other is forgiven, but on a negative side the person is now indifferent towards the other. Love, in this case, is lost.
People who can accept
Usually, people who knows how to provide unconditional love are our parents. Regardless how many times you have wronged them, you’re still treated the same way you were treated when you were a kid. Our parents are the ones who will always be there for us no matter what.
People who has more experience with ups and downs tend to know better on how to will their mind on forgiving those who suffered them, since they can identify and separate the wrong actions from the wrong-doer. Maturity comes with age and experience.
This kind of love, the one with acceptance is the ideal kind of love that we all must strive to achieve. It may not be easy, but in loving unconditionally, we should accept the we love, flaws and all.
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